I choose to collaborate, not compete

International Women’s Day is a perfect opportunity to reflect on an observation that has been on my mind lately.

I’ve noticed a prevailing sense of solidarity among women in business, particularly among sole traders and small business owners like myself. It’s truly refreshing.

Throughout my career, I’ve worked in various corporate environments, most of which were male-dominated. In those settings, only a handful of women filled senior leadership positions. These remarkable women profoundly influenced my career trajectory as early mentors in navigating and succeeding in what was often considered “a man’s world.”

Now, in my late 40s, I can compare the experiences of older women with those of their younger counterparts. I’ve witnessed a remarkable evolution in the unanimity and support among women from childhood to adulthood.

In the formative years, girls often find themselves amidst a complex social dynamic where competition and comparison overshadow solidarity. Societal norms appear to compel girls to compete rather than collaborate, leading to instances where personal gain takes precedence over genuine support and kindness.

Competition over collaboration tends to define relationships among young girls. In this culture, one’s success may be viewed as another’s loss, and envy can overshadow the ability to celebrate achievements together. Unfortunately, this culture of competition can hinder the development of strong bonds of camaraderie among young girls. As women mature and navigate personal and professional life complexities, they recognise the power of collaboration and mutual support.

In my recent interactions with like-minded women in business, I’ve witnessed how unity fosters a culture of shared experiences, mentorship, and knowledge-sharing. It’s a culture where wisdom and guidance are freely exchanged, regardless of age or background. By nurturing a culture of collaboration, support, and empowerment, we can create a world where every woman has the opportunity to flourish and succeed, regardless of age or background.

I believe it’s crucial to encourage the generations below us to prioritise collaboration over competition. This transformation should begin in schools, colleges, and, most importantly, in home environments.

Women actively reaching out to encourage, support and help me develop and grow my business has been a pleasant surprise. It’s a support network and much-appreciated mentorship I value deeply, and one I wish wasn’t so surprising to encounter.